Navigating Holiday Gatherings: A Family Guide for Individuals with Autism

The holidays are known as “the most wonderful time of the year,” but for many families of individuals with autism, the season can also bring unique challenges. Changes in routine, unfamiliar environments, loud celebrations, and an influx of guests can be overwhelming.

The good news? With planning, communication, and compassion, families can create a holiday season that is joyful, meaningful, and comfortable for everyone.

At Connections, we understand that every individual with autism experiences the holidays differently—there is no one-size-fits-all strategy. But the quick tips below can help families prepare for the season and celebrate in ways that feel safe and supportive.

Preparing for Holiday Events & Parties

Holiday gatherings can be fun—but also full of sensory surprises. Whether attending a school program, a neighbor’s party, or a family tradition, consider these strategies:

Preview the Experience

• Show photos or videos of where you’re going.

• Create a simple social story explaining what the event will look like.

• Let your child or adult loved one know who will be there and what will happen.

Adjust Expectations

It’s okay to attend for a short period, step outside for a break, or skip parts of an event altogether. Participation doesn’t have to be all-or-nothing.

Pack a Comfort Kit

A small bag can make a big difference. Items can include thins like:

• Noise-canceling headphones

• Fidgets or sensory tools

• Snacks

• A favorite toy, book, or tablet

• Sunglasses for bright environments

Establish a Break Space

If you’re hosting or visiting family, designate a quiet room where your loved one can reset if the festivities become overwhelming.

Managing Houseguests & Changes at Home

The hustle of visitors, decorations, and rearranged spaces can disrupt routine. These steps help maintain comfort and predictability:

Prepare Ahead of Time

Use visual schedules or calendars to show when guests are arriving and how long they will stay.

Keep One ‘Safe Space’ Unchanged

Even if the res

t of the home is decorated, you may want to consider keeping at least one room exactly as your loved one prefers it.

Communicate with Guests

A quick conversation with visitors can ease the pressure on everyone. Let them know:

• How your loved one communicates

• What sensory triggers to avoid

• How they can help support a calm environment

Maintain Routines Whenever Possible

Bedtimes, mealtimes, and downtime rituals provide comfort during a busy season.

Holiday Meals: Navigating New Foods & Family Traditions

Large meals with unfamiliar foods, smells, and sounds can be stressful. Here are a few ways to make holiday dining more comfortable:

Honor Food Preferences

It is absolutely okay to offer familiar foods, even at a special meal. The goal is participation, not forcing change.

Preview the Menu

Show photos of the foods that will be served and let your loved one explore them at their own pace—without pressure.

Create a “Quiet Plate” Option

If the table feels too chaotic, a quieter seat or a separate side table can help regulate overwhelm.

Practice Expectations

If certain traditions involve sitting, serving, or waiting, practice these steps ahead of time in small, low-pressure moments.

Celebrating the Season Your Way

Every family and every individual’s needs are different—and so are holiday traditions. What matters most is creating an environment where everyone feels included, comfortable, and supported.

Some families choose quiet celebrations at home. Others participate in gatherings with careful planning. Many blend old traditions with new ones. There is no “right” way to celebrate—only the way that feels best for your family.

At Connections, we are grateful to be part of your lives during this special time of year. We wish all our students, adult clients, families, and staff a season filled with warmth, love, and connection.

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!